Blogging Guilt

November 21, 2017 Discussion 28

When uni finished, I was so excited to get back into blogging. I was so sure I’d start posting 3 times a week again, interacting with everyone, smashing out the reviews and reading all the time. But then that didn’t happen…

My life got busy and I was distracted by adulting problems and video games. Which is fine, we blog for fun and are under no obligations to meet demands. But I still felt incredibly guilty about a number of different things.

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Not reading review books

Being a mood reader can make it really difficult to get through review books in any sort of timely manner. Especially when you have over 200 books on your TBR pile… I wish I was exaggerating:

Of these, only 25 are review books. So few, and yet pretty much all of them have been on my TBR for at least a year because I never really want to read them. I want to reread and catch up on series, but not all of those are books I review or talk about much on the blog. They don’t produce content that I’m so far behind with. 

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Falling behind on posts

Despite my sudden free time (at least, more compared to I’m used to) I have no posts scheduled. There are a few reasons for this:

  • I haven’t read many books and so don’t have anything to review
  • I’m distracted by other things/ not in a post writing mood
  • I haven’t been able to take photos for the posts because the weather hates me

Honestly, the weather is the main problem. I want to take photos for those list posts and reviews, but every time I try it becomes overcast and/or rains. WHY DO YOU HATE ME SO WEATHER?

Still there are plenty of posts I can write without necessarily needing book photos (like this one). I don’t really have any excuses beyond being slack.

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Not being able to host regular giveaways

I am so grateful for all of the followers, even the silent ones, and really wish I could reward you all more often. Maybe one day I’ll be able to afford it but right now I have no funds. We’re lucky to host a giveaway once or twice a year for a prize of one book. You all deserve more opportunities to get something more than just our posts. 

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Failing at interactions

This is the biggest source of guilt I think. I’m such a silent lurker on all social media platforms. Twitter remains a mystery to me. I’m slowly figuring out Instagram but still suck at commenting. Tumblr has been neglected for so long because I never have time. Even when visiting blogs, I often read and enjoy so many posts but rarely leave comments or share them. Laziness definitely plays a part, as does some anxiety. I can’t use the lack of time excuse anymore.

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Most of this guilt stems from my anxious nature, I think. I feel like I’m disappointing people, letting others in the community down. Logically I know that it doesn’t matter, the pressure is all in my head, you guys enjoy my posts when I’m there and might miss the posts when I’m not, but you don’t get annoyed at me for being absent. Despite the logic there are still those negative words floating around telling me that I could be doing a lot more than I am. I have similar problems and thoughts with other aspects of my anxiety, but that’s a discussion for a different time and place.

Do you struggle with blogging guilt too?

28 Responses to “Blogging Guilt”

  1. Sonia @ The Book Wielding Harpie

    I feel, so incredible guilty for not blogging that I could turn into a sin.

    Started a new job in the middle of June, so, had to give it attention. And then September and October were *really* busy having to put an absurd amount of extra hours, so, reading time was non-existent. It has slow down, thankfully, but, reading mood is still not there. And I basically fall asleep if I’m standing still for more than 20 minutes.

    So yeah, lots of guilt. I need to let it go. But I had so many plans and post ideas before that I can’t.
    Sonia @ The Book Wielding Harpie recently posted…Short and Sweet Review: Dead Witch Walking by Kim Harrison

    • Bec

      I hope things slow down for you a bit soon. And that you do get to post all those blog posts plans eventually.

  2. Tasya

    Not being able hosting a giveaway is one of my biggest guilt. I guess seeing so many blogs hosting giveaway for their followers really got to me because as you said, I appreciate every single one of my followers and they deserve MORE, it’s just I don’t have the means. I don’t even really buy books (which is why I never do hauls) for myself, I couldn’t buy for others… I also feel guilty when I can’t review books on deadline. It’s like they trusted me and I couldn’t do it.
    Tasya recently posted…Snow and Rose by Emily Winfield Martin // Review + Aesthetics

    • Bec

      It really does bug your conscious. At least we have genuine followers I guess? They’re here for content and not just giveaways

    • Bec

      I feel that a lot right now! Commenting back for four posts. It’s a lot. I wish I hadn’t left it so long.

  3. ShootingStarsMag

    Oh, I totally get blogger guilt. It’s really easy to do, but I think it’s important to remember that people are reading because they want to see your content but you don’t need to feel stressed over how often you post, or what you post, and you definitely shouldn’t worry about doing giveaways. It feels like everyone does them, but I think it’s the MINORITY of book bloggers most of the time.

    -Lauren
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  4. Beth | Fuelled by Fiction

    I feel this so hard! I’ve always been bad at keeping up with review copies because I’m a mood reader, too. I’ve been really sliding with posting in general since the beginning of the summer. Things are starting to pick up (in that I’ve posted three times since September, whoops). But don’t worry, we still love you. :)
    Beth | Fuelled by Fiction recently posted…The Ten Best Books I Didn’t Read This Fall

    • Bec

      Thanks! I find that as i’m a mood reader, I’m also a mood blogger haha. Need the motivation to write posts. It can be pretty draining.

  5. Sara L.

    Awwwww. :( I know the feeling, Bec, though for different reasons. My bloggers’ guilt comes from not having enough time to do all the blogging I want to do. I’ve had to readjust my blogging schedule a couple times because of this (in fact, I might have slow down a little more in 2018), but each time I’ve accepted the decision pretty easily.

    Please don’t feel guilty. I know it’s easier said that done, but we understand why you feel the way you do. And having dealt with anxiety myself… well… *hugs* (I couldn’t think of anything logical to say, but support is always welcome, right?) Just do your best to remember to take care of yourself and to have fun when do you blog. :)
    Sara L. recently posted…New Post at Writers Helping Writers on Story Resolutions (Plus, No Post on Thursday)

    • Bec

      Thanks Sara. Support and reassurance is always welcome!

      I hope you don’t have to cut down too much next year. It sucks having to cut back on the things you love.

  6. Lara

    I totally get what you mean! I mean, I feel guilty that I only post once a week and there are bloggers out there who post three or four times a week, but thats just not realistic for me. And as for giveaways… I hosted one where the winner was someone who had only just followed me because of the giveaway and then I felt guilty about that because I wanted to reward the people who had been following me and interacting with me before then…

    It’s hard, but don’t let it get to you too much… I always love it when you post, but I know that life happens and if you don’t post for a month and then suddenly publish a post, I’ll still be excited to read it and I’m not going to be pissed off that you had some time to yourself away from blogging.

    I hope that all made sense…..
    Lara recently posted…I Binged All of Renee Ahdieh’s Books (And Here are My Mini Reviews)

    • Bec

      It can be really hard to post frequently! I admire those bloggers who can post over three times a week. It’s insane.

      That is certainly a problem with giveaways that are randomly chosen winners. An idea for a giveaway where you reward those already following: Make a list of those who already follow you on a platform and pick a random one!

      It all made perfect sense! Thank you

  7. Briana @ Pages Unbound

    I also often wish I could do more giveaways and give back to the community, but right now I’m working a weird collection of part-time jobs that don’t even add up to full-time hours, so, yeah, funds are tight. I do try to donate books I don’t want anymore, which is usually free for me to do, so I like to think I’m at least giving to other readers in that way.
    Briana @ Pages Unbound recently posted…Five Ways To Support Authors When You Have No Money

  8. Uma @Books.Bags.Burgers

    OMG I just went through the exact same thing. I had a 10 day holiday between semesters and thought I’d post a lot and prep posts for the rest of the year but NOPE. Couldn’t do anything. But I think it’s absolutely cool to have a relaxed blogging process than to push ourselves too much :) You have gorgeous pictures and great content! That’s what matters!
    Uma @Books.Bags.Burgers recently posted…Giveaway – Pigeon Blood Red by Ed Duncan (INTERNATIONAL)

  9. Amber @ The Literary Phoenix

    Please don’t feel like you’re disappointing people! Book bloggers (any bloggers!) work SO HARD and honestly we are all people and sometimes even the stuff we love drags us down. We all have days (weeks!) when we just need to sit on a beach and do nothing. And this is perfectly okay.

    Also, um, for someone still figuring out Instagram? Your posts are lovely. I think my last post is of a Thanksgiving pie, so you are winning! *thumbs up*
    Amber @ The Literary Phoenix recently posted…Make-Your-Own Book Box #11 – LEGEND

  10. Wattle

    I hear you :( I want to blog, I think about blogging, and then I get sidetracked and don’t blog. And the silly thing is, it’s not an obligation for us, we shouldn’t feel guilty! It’s a hobby that other people sometimes take an interest in, but I think we treat it more like a job.
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    • Bec

      It’s so easy to get distracted! I often do forget that it’s a hobby. But I don’t think I’ve ever had a hobby that I want to be as involved in as with blogging.

    • Bec

      Wow a month in advance!! That would make life so much easier. I haven’t had posts scheduled in advance since the start of the year.

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